subject line: "I love you, and I'm not going anywhere."


Winston Salem, North Carolina

I’ve never experienced friends that worked through problems.

I’m use to fighting and fighting hard. I’m use to saying all the low blows because hurting them first meant I wouldn’t get hurt worse. I’m use to holding onto anger and ignoring them until they realized they had done something.

Until about two minutes ago, I didn’t realize that this is the healthiest friendship I’ve ever had. And I’m not use to healthy. Because healthy has to keep showing up time and time again. Healthy is vulnerable. Healthy is full of grace. Healthy is apologizing. Healthy is saying when you’re hurt, instead of running away.

”I love you and I’m not going anywhere” is what she wrote. I wasn’t expecting to read that. So simple. Yet I had to hold back the tears.

She didn’t bolt. She didn’t disown me. She didn’t tell me I was being over dramatic. She stayed.

Maybe it really is that simple. Just stay.