subject line: what I wish someone would have told me


Nashville, Tennessee

What I really want to say to everyone who is wondering if he feels the same way:
There are two hard truths that I’ve learned in the world of dating. First is that if he is interested, you will know. And if you don’t know, then the truth is that deep down you do know, but you’re trying to convince yourself that he’s putting out signals that are not really there. I know from experience that it is far too easy to tell yourself what you want to hear when you’re reading between the hypothetical lines that really just mean he isn’t interested. And you need to know that it isn’t because you aren’t good enough. Him not choosing you does not make you any less worthy of being chosen. The second truth is that if he wants to see you, he will see you. If he wants to talk to you, he will move mountains to make it happen. So please, stop trying to convince him that you are worth it, and start waiting for the guy who will tell you that you have always been worth it. You deserve someone who you won’t have to question or wonder about. You deserve someone who will make his feelings known, and his intentions clear. And there are guys out there who will do that. My hope is that you believe that you are worthy of being someone’s first choice, and that you don’t settle for anything less.