subject line: read the cautions signs

 

Atlanta

Dear Me,

As I’m writing this, I keep erasing because the words I’m writing aren’t pretty enough to describe how it’s okay to learn you aren’t as wonderful as you thought you were. Humility isn’t a road that is just stumbled upon its one you have to choose… and usually it’s another person that God uses to help you walk that path.

For you humility will be found in how you label yourself in accordance to the other people in your life, but don’t worry I’ll make a caution sign for you because things will get hard if you don’t follow this rule.

*Caution, any desired title you give yourself is a double-edged sword, and someone will get hurt*

You’ll realize that giving yourself the title of “Influential.” will actually mean “Manipulative.” And it turns out that every situation that you made yourself “influential in” really means you are choosing the outcome for the person next to you.

You’ll realize that giving yourself the title of “Intelligent.” will actually mean “Arrogant.” And it turns out that every time you find yourself “smarter than the person next to you” you are really letting that person know you think they are dumb.

You’ll realize that giving yourself the title of “Sought-After.” will actually mean “Unapproachable.” And it turns out that every time you make yourself “higher than someone else” you are really letting someone know they are mediocre.

*Caution, any desired title you give yourself is a double-edged sword, and someone will get hurt*

You’ll find someone you love and all of the sudden the “Influential, Intelligent, Sought-After” man you thought you were really means bringing in the baggage of being a “Manipulative, Arrogant, Unapproachable” guy who thought he had it all figured out.

But good news!

You’re in luck.

You’ll learn to give yourself all of those desirable titles less, and learn to give them out more. And when you tell the person you love that they are “Influential, Intelligent, and Sought-After” it no longer comes as a double-edged sword because you aren’t giving them a title they chose for themselves, you are giving them words you chose to describe why they are loved by you.

There is a lot of beauty in learning this lesson. It will be more difficult than you think, and the road to finding out you aren’t the amazing man you thought you were is very humbling. But that’s the point. Humility isn’t something that you stumble upon its something you have to choose. It’s a shift of the heart. It’s a desire for someone else and not for yourself. All the titles you have given yourself wont make you happy until you give them away. Remember that.

Sincerely,
Me