subject line: rock or soft place. selfless or selfish? December 26, 2015 by Hannah Brencher new orleans I feel immense pressure to succeed. To climb the ladder. To progress. To be an example for all the women who will come after me. In my career, there are few women at the top, and I feel a lot of people looking to me. I often wonder why there aren’t more women. The more tired of my job, I realize the smart women move on because they realize their lives aren’t about being a martyr to change the cycle. I can’t decide if I want to be a model, or have my own shot at happiness. But it can’t be both.